WE CELEBRATED 9 YEARS OF MARRIAGE!

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We've officially reaching that point where we look back at our wedding photos and say, "Wow, look at those two!  They're just a couple of crazy kids!"

You know, we wish we had some epic anniversary celebrations to share, but the day wasn't filled with a candlelight dinner or a romantic walk on the beach, a night out on the town or fancy gifts.

No, no...it was just another ordinary day complete with errands, household chores, schoolwork, conference calls, emails, dishes, laundry, spills, teachable moments, and every other everyday thing in between.  And you know what?

We wouldn't change a thing.

Because in our 9 years of marriage we have learned that the sum total of marriage isn't in the big celebrations or epic events - it's in the everyday, ordinary moments where life is truly lived and lasting bonds are forged.

IT'S IN THE EVERYDAY MOMENTS that you learn to love what must be done - those hard and difficult things that aren't always fun, but necessary if you want a marriage that is sanctifying, for your good and for His glory.

IT'S IN THE EVERYDAY MOMENTS that you can experience the privilege of being used as an instrument of God's grace in the life of another, a vessel of healing and honor.

IT'S IN THE EVERYDAY MOMENTS that your heart is exposed and who you really are is revealed - and to be able to share hard personal growth and intense vulnerability with another person is truly a blessed privilege.

So, with that being said, here's to the future - not knowing exactly what it holds, but sure of Who holds it - from the epic events to the everyday moments - we're ride or die, and can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.

And hey, all you marriages out there who are experiencing the ups and downs of the everyday moments alongside us - keep going, don't stop, humble yourself, choose to love even when's it's hard, and ENJOY THE JOURNEY.

xo, K

Lens Check!

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As I was driving the kids for a visit with Grandma this past week, we were jammin’ to one of our favorite worship songs, and clear as day, loud and proud over the music, Harper says, “Mom, Jesus never fails!”

It’s one of those simple truths that I just can’t seem to hear enough…

God, in His omniscient ways, knew that I needed to be reminded of His faithfulness at that very moment, and He used my precious 5-year old daughter as His mouthpiece.  “Out of the mouth of babes,” right?

I love how children, unaffected by the cares and distractions of this life, are able to cut through the noise and get to the heart of the matter.  In the scriptures, Jesus urges us to “become like little children,” and now that I have kids of my own, I’m beginning to further understand His heart behind these directives.  Yes, the goal is to always be growing in our faith and maturing in our walk with Christ, but when it comes trusting God with our whole hearts, He just wants us to simply take Him at His Word.  

I smiled and replied, “You’re right, Harper.  Jesus never fails.”  But then I thought to myself, “I know this in my head, but has this truth actually penetrated my heart?”

Because, if I’m being honest, many times, when other things let me down in life – people, politics, policies, personal shortcomings – I can begin to see God through that same failed, fractured lens. 

(after a quick Google search on lenses...

Lenses, in a nutshell, modify how we see light – as light rays are refracted, or bent, they converge or diverge to form an image.  So, the type of lens we are looking thru, affects the world that we see.  It’s not the actual light that changes, but rather the way the light is refracted that changes what we see

For me, the spiritual application here is huge - the Bible tells us that “God is Light and in Him is no darkness at all” and that “Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever.”  So, intrinsically, the Light is good – it illuminates, brightens and reveals truth.  It's when we bring our own lenses to the party – fear, failure, depression, anxiety, grief, brokenness, un-forgiveness, vanity, greed, selfishness – that the Light appears altered, and the image we are left with is often messy, confusing, and chaotic.  

So, thank you Harper, for reminding me to check my lenses!  

TIPS FOR MAINTAINING YOUR FAITH LENS:

The Good News is that our “prescription” never changes – prayer + praise + reading, trusting, and submitting to God’s Word + loving and serving others + giving all glory and honor to Jesus –  all allow us to see the world as God intended us to it – a world full of His love and light, where Jesus never fails.

HIDE THESE TRUTHS IN YOUR HEART:

"God IS Love…" - 1 John 4:16

"Love (God) never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:8

Xo, K

35 Things I Know For Sure

 MY TRIBE AT 35 :)                                                                             

MY TRIBE AT 35 :)                                                                             

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I'm turning the big trienta y cinco this week – doesn’t sound so bad when said in Spanish, so from here on out, that’s gonna be my thing, bueno?

Honestly, I love getting older.  Okay, maybe LOVE is a bit strong, but I definitely don’t mind it.  Well, maybe it does annoy me just a little.  You know what, let’s just move on to the 35 things that I’ve come to know to be true after my 3 ½ decades on earth, shall we?  Good.  Vamos!

{In no particular order...}

1.     The height of your joy is contingent upon the depth of your thankfulness.

2.    Nothing will steal your joy quicker than comparing yourself to others.

3.    God’s ways > our ways.

4.    Pursue your passion, not a paycheck.

5.    Travel.  Travel.  Travel.   You'll never regret one penny spent seeing the world. 

6.    Purpose to learn about other cultures, and find ways to interact with people who look different, think different and live differently than you.

7.    Be quick to listen and slow to speak.  (Still working on this; will probably ALWAYS be working on this)

8.    “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

9.    Think before you tweet.  Stop before you Snap.  Pause before you post.  Your digital footprint matters. 

10.  Make it a priority to pursue and intimately know God – work your life and schedule around Him.

11.    Love your neighbor as yourself.

12.   Be wise with your money. 

13.   Our words create our worlds – so, choose them wisely.

14.   Decisions determine your destiny, so make your plans, but allow God to   order your steps.

15.   If you’re not bowing down to God, you’re bowing down to something else.

16.  “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1, The Bible

17.   Laughter truly is the best medicine.

18.   We were created on purpose, and for a purpose; by Love, and for love.

19.    Trust and obey God – He knows your end from your beginning and what’s best for you along way.

20.   Become an expert in praying for your spouse and children – no one will pray for them like you pray for them.

21.     Love without expecting anything in return.

22.    Be skilled at giving encouragement – especially to those in your household – an encouraging word is like spiritual oxygen helping others to function at a higher level. 

23.   Stop worrying - especially about what others may think.

24.   Work like everything depends on you, pray like everything depends on God.

25.    Don’t be so hard on yourself.

26.    Be careful with criticism. 

27.    Be quick to forgive. Your spirit, soul and body are not equipped to harbor unforgiveness. 

28.    Don’t follow your feelings – feelings change and can straight up lie.  Instead, follow the unchanging, redemptive truth of God’s Word.

29.    Be careful about what you continually see, hear and meditate on – because we ultimately become what we continually behold.

30.   Waiting + patience are hard practices to keep, but necessary for our growth and refinement.

31.     If Jesus is all you have, He is enough.

32.   When your kids ask if they can play in the rain or dig in the mud, say yes.  The experience and memory is worth far more than the time it takes to clean up the mess.

33.    God is good.

34.   You are loved.

35.   Marriage and motherhood are all at once the hardest, the holiest and the happiest. (paraphrased from Ann Voskamp)

xo, K

God's Got This

He's Got The Whole World In His Hands

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In addition to working in television, hosting live events, and creating fun, family-friendly online content with my husband Danny, I'm a homeschool mommy to our two children, Harper (5yrs) and Holt (2yrs). Trust me when I say that I NEVER in a million years imagined homeschooling my kids!  Danny and I both attended public schools and believed homeschool to be a fringe, weird and unrealistic option for education.  Now that I'm about to begin my second official year homeschooling, I can tell you with 100% certainty that it is in fact fringe and weird, but a highly realistic and incredibly rewarding journey for both children and parents alike.  

I'll be expounding upon our homeschool experience in subsequent posts, but for now, with a new school year upon us I thought it apropos to simply share a piece of our school room with you and the inspiration behind it.

But before I do that, allow me to flashback to May of 2016...

It was then, after 14 years of living in California, that we moved across the country to my husband's hometown of Indianapolis, IN to be closer to family, and to remove some of the financial burden that comes with raising kids in LA.  It sounds like an admirable and logical decision, but nothing, and I do mean nothing, has stretched our faith more than this cross-country move.   I remember journaling a couple of years ago when God first put it on our hearts to pray about relocating - I heard Him clearly say, "Go, go, go.  What may look like the end to some, will be just the beginning for you and Danny."  See, God knew from the minute this move was on the table, that I would need a reminder from Him to push through fear - fear of failure, fear of what others may think - for me, the fear list was endless.  

It's only been three months since our move, and we are living simply, building community and trusting God with this new beginning.  There are still many unknowns and a lot of unanswered questions, but we are graciously learning the blessing of trusting and obeying.  

When it came time to move into our new home, my priorities were the kids' room and the school/play room.  I knew the move was going to be an exciting adventure, but also a bit sad and emotional, especially for Harper who is old enough to realize that she won't be seeing her California friends as much anymore.  So it was important for me to create a sense of home as quickly as possible for the kids.  

In the school room, I had this gigantic white wall just staring at me, begging for some color and creative direction.  With our school curriculum being heavy on geography this year, I knew I wanted it to be something global and inspiring.  I had some solid ideas, but the challenge was our budget - with the cost of the move and the fact that we are renting this home - I didn't want to invest much.  First, I found this colorful wall decal on Amazon for $14.  This became the focal point of the wall.  I knew the decal needed a color behind it so that it would have more visual pop, and since yellow is my favorite color, boom, there it is!  The wooden siding came from Michaels at just .99 cents a piece, and I spray painted them brown.

The global portion of the room was now complete, but how could I make this a bit more inspiring?   Again, keeping the budget in mind, I looked to my craft stash to see what I already had in-house.  I found a pack of 8 art canvases that I picked up from Michael's several months ago for $10.  I love to paint, but since I'm not much of an artist I knew it would have to be something simple and doable; and what's easier than a sky and clouds, which happened to go perfectly with my decal of the world!  

I'm also a big believer in the power of words, teaching the kids that our words have the power to create our worlds.  There was the vision - our wonderful world, created by an imaginative God, surrounded by inspiring, life-giving words floating in the sky - all for under $30!  So, I busted out the stencil and acrylic paints, and got to work.  

When the final canvas was hung and I stood back to survey the end result, the song "He's Got The Whole World In His Hands" instantly came to mind.  It's funny how a little childhood ditty can pierce our hearts in a poignant moment - or maybe I'm just getting more emotional the older I get - either way, God used this wall-decorating experience to bless my heart and calm my spirit at a time when I really needed it.  

Yes, there are still many unknowns and we are still adjusting to life in the Midwest - but no matter our geographic location, or what the future holds, I choose to say NO to that fear list - for I know Who holds the future - the God of the universe has me in His hands.  

"The sea that He made belongs to Him, along with the dry land that His hands formed...let us kneel in the presence of the Lord, who made us." - Psalm 95:5-6

So, be encouraged.  Whatever mountain you are facing today, just trust in the Lord.  He will either move it, or walk with you over it.  He'll even use the everyday, mundane tasks - like decorating a wall - to speak to your heart, if you're open to hearing Him.  

Yes, He's got the whole world in His hands.  

xo - K

 

One big MESSage...

Spoiler Alert:  We are one of those families who doesn't have it all together.

The laundry is seemingly never done;

the dishes are perfectlly piled high in the sink;

toys and such are stubbornly strewn across the floor,

and a spill is oh but a moment away.

But, despite the mess that surrounds us, we've learned to keep our eyes on the Master - the One, the ONLY ONE who can turn our MESS INTO A MESSAGE.  For the goal isn't to avoid messes, but to PUT ON LOVE and CHOOSE JOY during the messes.

As the apostle Paul so beautifully put it, "I have learned to be content in whatever state I am … For it is Christ who empowers me … Who infuses inner strength to me … and I am self-sufficient IN HIS sufficiency." Phillipians 4 [AMP]

That's the prize.  That's the promise.  That's the MESSage.

xo,

K

 

Living with a THANKFUL heart...

We've been updating our home with pieces that inspire us - this one inspires us to stop, and remember to give thanks in all things - something we've been working on together as a family.  

It's easy to give thanks in the good times; but we are called to give thanks at ALL times...

"Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." - 1 Thessalonians 5:18

for thankfulness is the only was to go from EMPTY TO FULL...

to appreciate the life that's right in front of you...

waiting to be lived to the fullest.

So, let the day bring what it may, 'cause no matter what it holds...

We CHOOSE TO LIVE with a THANKFUL HEART.

xo,

K