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Lens Check!

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As I was driving the kids for a visit with Grandma this past week, we were jammin’ to one of our favorite worship songs, and clear as day, loud and proud over the music, Harper says, “Mom, Jesus never fails!”

It’s one of those simple truths that I just can’t seem to hear enough…

God, in His omniscient ways, knew that I needed to be reminded of His faithfulness at that very moment, and He used my precious 5-year old daughter as His mouthpiece.  “Out of the mouth of babes,” right?

I love how children, unaffected by the cares and distractions of this life, are able to cut through the noise and get to the heart of the matter.  In the scriptures, Jesus urges us to “become like little children,” and now that I have kids of my own, I’m beginning to further understand His heart behind these directives.  Yes, the goal is to always be growing in our faith and maturing in our walk with Christ, but when it comes trusting God with our whole hearts, He just wants us to simply take Him at His Word.  

I smiled and replied, “You’re right, Harper.  Jesus never fails.”  But then I thought to myself, “I know this in my head, but has this truth actually penetrated my heart?”

Because, if I’m being honest, many times, when other things let me down in life – people, politics, policies, personal shortcomings – I can begin to see God through that same failed, fractured lens. 

(after a quick Google search on lenses...

Lenses, in a nutshell, modify how we see light – as light rays are refracted, or bent, they converge or diverge to form an image.  So, the type of lens we are looking thru, affects the world that we see.  It’s not the actual light that changes, but rather the way the light is refracted that changes what we see

For me, the spiritual application here is huge - the Bible tells us that “God is Light and in Him is no darkness at all” and that “Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever.”  So, intrinsically, the Light is good – it illuminates, brightens and reveals truth.  It's when we bring our own lenses to the party – fear, failure, depression, anxiety, grief, brokenness, un-forgiveness, vanity, greed, selfishness – that the Light appears altered, and the image we are left with is often messy, confusing, and chaotic.  

So, thank you Harper, for reminding me to check my lenses!  

TIPS FOR MAINTAINING YOUR FAITH LENS:

The Good News is that our “prescription” never changes – prayer + praise + reading, trusting, and submitting to God’s Word + loving and serving others + giving all glory and honor to Jesus –  all allow us to see the world as God intended us to it – a world full of His love and light, where Jesus never fails.

HIDE THESE TRUTHS IN YOUR HEART:

"God IS Love…" - 1 John 4:16

"Love (God) never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:8

Xo, K

35 Things I Know For Sure

MY TRIBE AT 35 :)                                                                             

MY TRIBE AT 35 :)                                                                             

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I'm turning the big trienta y cinco this week – doesn’t sound so bad when said in Spanish, so from here on out, that’s gonna be my thing, bueno?

Honestly, I love getting older.  Okay, maybe LOVE is a bit strong, but I definitely don’t mind it.  Well, maybe it does annoy me just a little.  You know what, let’s just move on to the 35 things that I’ve come to know to be true after my 3 ½ decades on earth, shall we?  Good.  Vamos!

{In no particular order...}

1.     The height of your joy is contingent upon the depth of your thankfulness.

2.    Nothing will steal your joy quicker than comparing yourself to others.

3.    God’s ways > our ways.

4.    Pursue your passion, not a paycheck.

5.    Travel.  Travel.  Travel.   You'll never regret one penny spent seeing the world. 

6.    Purpose to learn about other cultures, and find ways to interact with people who look different, think different and live differently than you.

7.    Be quick to listen and slow to speak.  (Still working on this; will probably ALWAYS be working on this)

8.    “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

9.    Think before you tweet.  Stop before you Snap.  Pause before you post.  Your digital footprint matters. 

10.  Make it a priority to pursue and intimately know God – work your life and schedule around Him.

11.    Love your neighbor as yourself.

12.   Be wise with your money. 

13.   Our words create our worlds – so, choose them wisely.

14.   Decisions determine your destiny, so make your plans, but allow God to   order your steps.

15.   If you’re not bowing down to God, you’re bowing down to something else.

16.  “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1, The Bible

17.   Laughter truly is the best medicine.

18.   We were created on purpose, and for a purpose; by Love, and for love.

19.    Trust and obey God – He knows your end from your beginning and what’s best for you along way.

20.   Become an expert in praying for your spouse and children – no one will pray for them like you pray for them.

21.     Love without expecting anything in return.

22.    Be skilled at giving encouragement – especially to those in your household – an encouraging word is like spiritual oxygen helping others to function at a higher level. 

23.   Stop worrying - especially about what others may think.

24.   Work like everything depends on you, pray like everything depends on God.

25.    Don’t be so hard on yourself.

26.    Be careful with criticism. 

27.    Be quick to forgive. Your spirit, soul and body are not equipped to harbor unforgiveness. 

28.    Don’t follow your feelings – feelings change and can straight up lie.  Instead, follow the unchanging, redemptive truth of God’s Word.

29.    Be careful about what you continually see, hear and meditate on – because we ultimately become what we continually behold.

30.   Waiting + patience are hard practices to keep, but necessary for our growth and refinement.

31.     If Jesus is all you have, He is enough.

32.   When your kids ask if they can play in the rain or dig in the mud, say yes.  The experience and memory is worth far more than the time it takes to clean up the mess.

33.    God is good.

34.   You are loved.

35.   Marriage and motherhood are all at once the hardest, the holiest and the happiest. (paraphrased from Ann Voskamp)

xo, K